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Cultivating Self Acceptance
Cultivating Self-Acceptance
So many of us have trouble with self acceptance in this perfectionistic, goal oriented world. Many of us are preoccupied with trying to get approval from others with how we look, producing more, and achieving a predetermined measure of success.
We berate and criticize our actions, expressions, emotions and desires. We feel too much, not enough, too fat, too thin, too busy, too lazy. If only we had not said that or done this then things would be different. We feel responsibility for other people’s happiness and anticipate any conflict as a place to be accused and blamed. When you are challenged or make a mistake it feels like you are falling through the air with no-one to catch you and the failure and unworthiness that you feel about yourself is seen by all. At this point the tables often turn to defending against the shame and we blame and attack back.
How is Therapy Transformative?
How is Therapy Transformative?
So many times people come into therapy wanting to know what happens, how does it work? What are we doing in therapy? I think one of the important things we are doing is encouraging people to have a more intimate relationship with themselves. Without that relationship it is very difficult to make decisions, to create the life we want, to share ourselves and to love others. This relationship involves our whole body. We experience life by what flows through our body. It is not just an intellectual knowing, thinking about I am this or that, but it is taking in the whole of who we are. It is when we experience this flow of emotions, and sensation easily and without being overwhelmed that we feel alive with the richness and complexity of our life.
Living consciously improves self esteem
How we live our life affects our self-esteem.
Working on building a positive self esteem is a life long task, no-one has a completely positive self esteem, nor negative. as long as our relationship with ourselves last, so our self-esteem will evolve and change. It changes in relationship to life events and hormones as well as an ongoing relationship with self. I am going to talk here about how living our life with integrity, or not, will affect our self esteem.
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